I write this anonymously as a faithful OHN reader and poster. You all know me…you may or may not have met me. You may look at me as the lil play cousin from down the street or just a friend. I am here to tell you about my experience with rape and abortion and why whenever someone says “abortion should never be allowed, even in instances of rape” spit in my face. You may not think you know someone who has been raped and pregnant, but the reality is…you know at least one. I am here. And here is my story.
Once upon a time, I met this guy who was working at a train station as a station security, badge and all. We spoke that day and then I boarded my train home. I frequented this station a lot to head home and I would see him frequently. After about 2 months, we exchanged numbers and a month after that we decided to go on a date at the station he worked out of, because there was more to do in his area. We went, the date was nice. I took my butt back home and we made plans to go out again. The 2nd date was also great. Third date was cool too. I wound up being in his area randomly one day because I was visiting a friend and he asked me to stop by so we could kick it outside. So I went. It was still daylight and I had more than enough time to get home. I stopped by and we did hang out on the stoop, just shooting the breeze. Eventually I had to go to the bathroom and we went upstairs so I could go. We wound up deciding to stay inside because a movie was coming on and we both wanted to watch it; me because it was one of my favorites and him because he had never seen it. During the movie, he got up to go to the bathroom. Then a hand landed around my neck. I tried to fight, but I am but 5’4″ and was only doing but so much damage against someone who was 6’3 and around 260 lbs.
I lost and we wound up on the floor.
I tried to keep my clothes on, but I lost that fight as well, all while screaming “No”. The will to keep fighting left and I figured that if I fought anymore, I may receive something worse than a few slaps and I very well couldn’t go home with bruises and black eyes. I resigned myself to the fact that I would be taken against my will by someone I knew and was starting to trust. Hot tears fell down my face and landed in my ears. I tried to cover my face with a pillow as I cried while the act went on, trying to go into a place of darkness and protection…as if the pillow was proof that it was a dream…and just as quickly was snatched with a “look at me” coming from above. I kept my eyes closed, but nails dug in my cheeks. By the time the act was over, I had reached that numbing place and I stayed on the floor until I was instructed to go to the bathroom. I grabbed my clothes and stumbled on the way there, crying again once I reached my destination.
I managed to clean the blood and semen through the pain and walked back out dressed. ”I have to go home” managed to exit my mouth and we departed for the station, me walking behind him because I was still in pain. I must have looked a hot shytty mess on that train because I later found out that the conductors were looking out for me – on a supremely crowded train, passengers were told my row was not to be sat in. I got home and took a shower to get that dirty feeling off of me…but no matter how much you scrub, that feeling doesn’t go away. I sat and replayed the entire day in my head, trying to figure out what I did for it to happen. I couldn’t think of anything. I thought of reporting it but decided otherwise. It was me against him…and he had a badge. It may not have been an official police officer badge, but it was a badge nonetheless.
Weeks went by. While I was at work, I had a stomach cramp. Nothing big…my period was due to come and I get cramps as a warning sign. The cramps became more frequent as the month went on and my breasts started to hurt. That had never happened to me…but maybe my period signs were changing since my cycle sometimes changed. I had the discussion with my boss and she said “You’re pregnant.” I’m sure I looked at her like she had 4 heads because I hadn’t had sex since the incident. I pushed that thought out of my mind. Then a friend of mine told me she was pregnant and gave me her symptoms. I looked at the phone and decided I would wait another week to see if my cycle came. It didn’t. I went and picked up 2 pregnancy tests. One was a box that had two tests (it was name brand – I just can’t think of the name) and the other was a name brand digital test. I took one test that day. After waiting 2 minutes, I got my response. Pregnant. I thought it may have been something I ate, so I would wait until the next morning like you’re supposed to. I took the 2nd test the next morning and same thing. ”Maybe this box is wrong…Jasmine had 2 false negative tests before. Maybe this one is giving false positives and I’m reading this wrong.” I took the digital test on the morning of the 3rd day. On the box, it says to wait I believe 90 seconds for a result. I got one in 20 and it was written in plain English.
PREGNANT.
If you have never experienced an unwanted pregnancy, you cannot imagine the anguish one goes through. 24 years old…raped and pregnant. I don’t remember how long I sat on the closed toilet staring at the test. At some point, it faded out of that vision and that fateful day roared in my head. I threw up in the sink. The thought of carrying something for 9 months that I didn’t want or ask for was disgusting. There was not even a minor feeling of joy. This thing was a parasite inside me and I had to get rid of it. I know me and I knew there was no way I could love anything given to me in the most violent of ways. I may not have had control on how I got pregnant, but I would be in control of the ending result. I got an abortion. And not the pill kind. I will spare you the details of that. My male BFF took me and within a few hours, I walked out unpregnant (and I know that’s a made-up word) and the desire to go to therapy to get my mind right and come to terms with my experience.
I haven’t told anyone my story because I wanted to keep it to myself. I tell you now because with the current issue up for debate, there will be women who will be attacked like me…but will be forced to carry a baby to term. Some may want to keep it, some may not want to keep it. We all know where the presidential nominees land on the issue of abortion. Being pro-choice does not mean being pro-death. It simply means giving someone the option to do with their body what they want. When you go into the voting booth in November, if you remember nothing else…remember me. I am here. My story exists. And I am your friend.
there is nothing for me to say or do other than to give you a hug…you are so brave to tell your story…and to tell it to this public forum…
thank you for sharing your story with us…
Everyone knows someone who has been raped…. which shows that there is a serious problem.
The majority of women I know have come to me and told me they have either been raped or survived an attempt.
I only know of ONE woman close to me who hasn't had to suffer such an indignity and fear.
that says nothing about my friends or family…. it says everything about the world we live in
We don't teach not to rape, we teach women how not to get raped. Most women are raped by people that we know, and people that we trust. That fact gets left out when these a hole men start talking about Legitimate Rape and Forcible Rape…Many times we aren't snatched off the street like an episode of Law and Order. We are with someone that we feel comfortable being alone with, which leads to the other questions and blaming of the victim. My biggest fear is that the further we start going into the Old Testament on picking our laws, women will have to start marrying their attackers to be "unsoiled".
We don't teach not to rape, we teach women how not to get raped.
This right here!
So very true!
I remember my mother telling me how my great aunt was really big on making sure we walked with our heads held high and to be aware of our surroundings so that we wouldn't be "easy targets"
I have a horrible habit of walking with my head down…sometimes when I'm walking I can hear my mother say you know your Aunt Maybelle would have a fit if she saw you walking like that…
Well said, Cee.
'My biggest fear is that the further we start going into the Old Testament on picking our laws, women will have to start marrying their attackers to be "unsoiled".'
A similar thing to this already happens in many parts of the world – and not only in Islamic parts, either – so to allude to further fundamentalist regression is not exaggeration at all.
People think I'm kidding but The Handmaid's Tale was the best book I've read in my 25 years. I feel that we are headed in that direction, where women are sold and raped (it's not consensual when you have no choice) on a daily basis for the good of the people.
Yup. The Handmaid's Tale is an absolute favorite of mine, but it is terrifying when you see it starting to become reality.
Me Three….
We don't teach not to rape, we teach women how not to get raped.
Say it again for the people in the cheap seats…a dayum shame
We don't teach not to rape, we teach women how not to get raped.
My mom taught my brothers to treat women with respect. We need more parents/guardians to do the same.
We teach not to rape in about the same way we teach not to steal. "Don't do it. It's bad"
But we still have to teach about defending ourselves (how not to get raped), the same way we have to teach about locking our stuff up when when we leave it.
It's sad and unfortunate, but it is the world we live in. Both sides need to be addressed, because as much as you try to tell a criminal not to be a criminal, he/she might still decide the criminal act is worth it. We have to make it not worth it to them. And that means protecting yourself.
" Being pro-choice does not mean being pro-death."
I wish I can give you a real hug. Thank you for sharing your story.
Wow. this has got to be one of the most powerful things I have read. God bless you to be able to share this with so many others.
Thank you.
Thank you for telling your story. I've been in the same situation that you were, not 24, 17 when raped and 18 when I found out that I was pregnant. No man in Congress can tell a woman what it feels like to carry a child created from a rape in their bodies. To me it felt like one of the face huggers from Alien had impregnated me, and that honestly would have been better. I give you so many hugs for your bravery and another hug because I know exactly how you felt.
Sending hugs your way.
Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story I really do wish I could give you a hug.
Another thing of note, there ARE states in which a rapist can sue his victim for custody if she does carry the child to term and decide to raise him/her. So on top of the rape and constant reminder, you have to deal with visitation and co parenting with the man that violated you. There are cases of women being given the option of prosecuting her attacker and risking him filing for custodial rights.
Wow. Then it in fact already isn't too far from the regression you mention above.
http://www.cnn.com/2012/08/22/opinion/prewitt-rap…
This woman had to actually fight her rapist for custody of her child. 31 states have laws that allow a rapist to sue their victim for child custody.
I am irrationally angry right now!
Ditto.
I don't think anger over this crap is irrational, really.
*record scratch* Wait – whut?!
That doesn't even make sense…I can't even…
…………………………………..
I never would have believed such a thing to be possible.
that is just…below disgusting.
no words…
just emotions.
mostly rage.
whoever you are, thank you for sharing your story and remaining strong.
Hugs and prayers for you all around.
And so by the candidate’s logic, he would say her ordeal was legitimate because her body didntdidn’t protect her from the pregnancy. Here is my question to all the Pro Life people out there. If the woman/ couple decide they don’t want the child but because you want the law to prevent abortions, how then do you propose to care for the massive influx of babies in the country that come about? Is there going to be a massive rebuilding of the Orphanage System in America funded by tax payer dollars? Are you gonna adopt a percentage of these babies? I mean cause you know people are not gonna stop fuggin right? You are not so stupid to thing that because abortion becomes illegal again that it’s gonna magically translate to logical choices of an over sexed media driven culture to slow down on the boot knocking do you?
I am so sorry you had to deal with that ordeal, so thankful and proud of you for sharing your story. close to half of the women I have dated have admitted they were raped. I say admitted, because I always feared it was more.
Knowing that soldiers have historically used raping and impregnating woman as a way of breaking their spirit and leaving a reminder that their men were not able to protect them,. I don't know how politicians can not allow women to reclaim their lives in whatever way they feel necessary. I do believe this post will open some eyes to this reality based on the fact that it happened to a love one… and yes, although nameless and faceless, you are a loved one.
Thank you!
*hugs*
Thank you for sharing your story! HUGE HUGS!
I am Pro-Choice, but Pro-Life as well. This means I couldn’t imagine having an abortion (unless it was an extreme circumstance such as rape or life-threatening), but I think everyone else should have the right to chose. For me, being Pro-Life means I respect life, period. It is not my place- or anyone’s- to judge what another woman does with her body, as long as it is safe and she understands the consequences.
I find these upcoming elections just as troubling because I know women who have had to make this choice as well as those who have been raped. My mother and one of my best friend’s are rape survivors. None of these people on the Hill and around the country have a right to deny a person the choice and freedom to make said choice. So I’ve been vocal about people getting out to vote and be heard.
Thank you for sharing. You are so brave.
Speechless…
I hope that POS dude got what's coming to him
Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing your story! HUGE HUGS!
I am Pro-Choice, but Pro-Life as well. This means I couldn't imagine having an abortion (unless it was an extreme circumstance such as rape or life-threatening), but I think everyone else should have the right to chose. For me, being Pro-Life means I respect life, period. It is not my place- or anyone's- to judge what another woman does with her body, as long as it is safe and she understands the consequences.
I find these upcoming elections just as troubling because I know women who have had to make this choice as well as those who have been raped. My mother and one of my best friend's are rape survivors. None of these people on the Hill and around the country have a right to deny a person the choice and freedom to make said choice. So I've been vocal about people getting out to vote and be heard.
"I am Pro-Choice, but Pro-Life as well."
Thank you for saying that. It is not necessarily an either/or thing.
Exactly.
Thanks for sharing and putting a 'face' on the issue.
There's a reality here. A genie that can't be put back in the bottle. I understand that a lot of politicians inform their views on issues like abortion and rape based on their faith — but when you live in a world where this sort of violence and hatred has a consequence, there has to be a way you can see it with open eyes and realize the anguish and pain that ignoring the REALITY of the situation in favor of a doctrine hurts actual people.
Thank you so much for posting this story, and being so very honest. Sadly we know yours is not the only story — but sharing the details may just be the only way to convince those who act like these things don't happen (or worse, that women are just making them up) of the truth.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. (hugs) to whomever you are.
I guess I can share this here since no one here knows me. I'd like to give a different prospective.
I was molested by my father and several uncles throughout my childhood. When I was 13, one of my uncles raped me and I later, while in a foster home.. I found out I was pregnant.
Abortion was something that my guardians pushed for and to be honest, I would have conceded if I weren't so angry. My mom sided with "her" family and I wanted to have the child to stain her for the rest of her life. I wanted her to have to look at my child, her brothers child and feel guilt and pain.
Although I chose to have my child, my reasons were selfish and full of hate.. He didn't deserve that. I eventually allowed a very nice loving couple to adopt him. I know where he is and from time to time I peek in on him via Facebook.
People can say what they would or would not do given certain situations.. But the fact is we don't know until we actually go through it.
Although I believe we are all trying to get to the same place.. Some of us don't have the luxury of getting "there" (wherever "there" is for you) via conventional methods.
I say get there however you can. I am pro- choice.. Rape or not. Get there how ever you can.
Thank you to you too.
I can see this post is going to make me angry, despairing, and possibly tearful…..
Thank you for sharing this story. Just because your tale had a different ending doesn't mean that you weren't able to exercise a choice after this terrible thing happened to you. That's really what I think (at least from my perspective) this is about, protecting a woman's right to choose her OWN path to dealing with the consequences of this horrible act.
Exactly.
Exactly. People do what they can live with and they deserve the choice to do so.
*hugs* for you too my dear…
thank you for sharing your story…
your honesty is very powerful
Thank you for sharing! HUGS
"I say get there however you can. I am pro- choice.. Rape or not. Get there how ever you can."
Thank you for adding your honest and open perspective to the mix. *hug*
Thank you. Powerful and tremendously written. It’s very gutsy of you to have written this piece. I don’t want to presume, but it wouldn’t surprise me if you didn’t quite feel brave, but somehow forced by circumstance to stand up and say your piece. And for that you deserve a whole heap of credit, and whole heap of appreciation.
I think, in general, the men on OHN are quite supportive of women’s issues – but there may well be some (and some women too) who have opinions that are not too dissimilar to those voiced by various members of the Republican party (and many on the left in the UK in defence of Julian Assange) of late.
Your tale is an extremely strong a refutation of blinkered opinions on rape, and I hope that at least a few of the OHN readers who may have those opinions can see that, and at least begin to consider their positions. It’s time we began teaching that it’s wrong to rape, and not that it’s wrong to be a sexual woman.
Bravo.
You my dear have begun or continued the healing process. You did nothing wrong. You may realize this deep down inside. Many will not agree with you or I but I believe you did the right thing. A child conceived out of love is different than a product of rape. If you gave birth and kept it, it would be a reminder of that. If you would ahve given it up for adoption that would also put you through another level of anguish.
Men that take with consent are punk and puzzies. They want to exert their power. But are trully powerless and are the worst form of scum. You will heal. He will always be a punk.
They're not even men. They don't even deserved to be called animals; that's an insult to animals everywhere. They're scumbag pieces of shyt.
Please pardon me. I'm so furious that I'm seeing red.
God bless you. Thank you.
I have no words except thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story. HUGS to you and I hope and pray that by you sharing your story, that it heals the wounds of your heart and soul. Be blessed.
….. I don't even wanna post anything else today.
I just want to fight the shyt out of the world.
I feel you little bro…
me too. makes me so sad there are so many "men" that think this shyt is acceptable. make me want to find every guy that's ever raped a woman and beat the living shyt out of them for these women.
*gets bats for everyone*
Ditto. Seeing red.
Thank you for sharing your story. The talking heads have been likening pregnancy via rape as a fairy tale plot-line, so thank you for bringing us the grim reality.
Bless your heart. Thanks for sharing.
I can't stop crying after reading this. I can't imagine the pain you dealt with. My tears are for you and for the world my daughter has to face. I hate that this could possibly be in her future and if the wrong people are elected her choice would be gone.
Thank you for sharing you story.
Thank you for sharing your tremendously powerful story. I appreciate that you have shared your vulnerability and strength. I also hope that these words reach somebody who needed to read them.
Sad thing is, a lot of the folks on the wrong side of the current debate in the news can't/won't connect to this tragic reality until it happens to them/someone close to them. smmfh
And even then, they'd seek out abortions for them AND fight against it for others.
RIGHT!!!!
Thanks to both ladies for sharing their stories. I can't think of anything meaningful to add…and I'm finding it hard to type this sentence through my tears. My heart has been heavy all week…all week…..
Peace & Love my friends…..PEACE. AND. LOVE.
I am humbled and heartened by the courage and compassion I've found in this post and these comments. If I may point out the bigger picture, stories like this one — and the fact that they are so common, whether or not they're acknowledged — underscore how important it is to pay attention to politics at ALL levels — local, state, and national. Please, get yourselves involved with the GOTV effort in some way this fall. Volunteer to register folks to vote, or monitor the polls, or help people navigate the intentionally difficult, disenfranchising laws that have been passed to keep certain "dangerous" voters from the polls (here in PA we are organizing like crazy). And please, please, be sure that you yourself are registered to vote and that you get to the polls and exercise this precious right.
Blessings to all of you.
Just go on 'head and vote for people who want to make this woman's story all too common….. go right on aheadddddddddddddd.
I don't care how many other policies of theirs you agree with.. voting for anyone who wants to put in place policies that would make this story a COMMON thing.. is wrong.
tell yourself otherwise if it helps you sleep better.
nd for people who think it low to use this woman's story as a call against republicans, f*ck you. GOP wants to thump their bibles against the heads of women and their rights. Period. Their clear policy on abortion is that there should be NO exemptions even in Rape…. which makes the pain this woman feels, something that ALL women who suffer rape would have to go through if they end up pregnant. and you can tout all the other policies of the GOP you DO agree with until it snows in hell, but that doesn't mean SHIT. You can't claim not to vote GOP because you agree with their "other policies and not this one" when in fact voting for this bytches ONLY ALLOWS THEM TO CARRY OUT THE POLICIES YOU DON'T AGREE WITH AND YOU F*CKING KNOW ARE EVIL!!!
that's like saying: " I love what hitler is doing for the german economy and national sense of pride.. i just don't agree with that lil holocaust thing he wants to do. I don't support that part.. but everything else is awesome."
T H I N K it through, people!!!
Basically….there is no compromising with evil.
for people who think it low to use this woman's story as a call against republicans, f*ck you.
those same people are probably the ones that think it is OK for me to be driving up I75 North and see a plane with a banner behind it with supposed pictures of aborted fetuses…f*ck them too!!!
THOSE folks get on my DAMN nerves! Because these people that shout about saving the babies are the SAME MOFOS who yell about how they don't feel it's fair to take care of other people's children!
Perhaps the other side should hold up pictures of abused children in homes where they aren't wanted or in foster care; or those who are on the street starving… just children like this, PERIOD, and see what they say!
It's all good until you have to back up these beliefs with a price tag. Then they conveniently forget the other teachings within the Bible… Some can give $.75/day to these Save The Children charities, but will walk over or past the underprivileged in their own country. And they'll say it's not their problem. Well, a person's right to choose shouldn't be your problem, either.
thanks for sharing your story…
*hugs*
No words….just lots of love for you.
Sigh, its truly sad and frightening that I know so many women personally. who were molested and/or raped
. I think I read an article that said something like 1 in 4 women will be the victim of molestation, rape or attempted rape by the time they are 16.
There was also a study at a university once where college age men were asked if they knew they would face no legal or social repurcussion, would they rape a woman, if they knew they could get away with it 100%.
I believe about half said they would.
Sigh,, I think every woman should have mace and a small pistol on her person at all times.
Got a question for all the Pro-Life folks. IF abortion becomes illegal again, what is going to happen to all the unwanted babies? Will you support the rebuilding of the Orphanage System in America with tax payers dollars? Will you be personally adopting an on going percentage of any of these Orphaned Babies? Or did you think that in some magical way of some type of reverse logic that people would stop fuggin? I mean in a society of over sexualized media and the constant sub text of buying more equals more azz to be gained, did you really think people were going to make a choice to stop fuggin because 'Hey if I/ my partner get's pregnant we will have no means to stop it legally so I better not be fuggin unless I want kids.' ? And while we are on the topic of Abortion being illegal, did you forget the scores of Doctors in the past that performed back alley procedures with coat hangers and the like and all of the health issues that followed? You forgot about that didn't you or maybe you forgot that money still makes the world go round and if there is a buck to be made, somebody will do what you have outlawed. Hmm wanna look at how well Prohibition worked out for this country? Not only did it fail, but it managed to fund vast criminal organizations with piles of cash in their coffers they we are still dealing with the effect of almost a hundred years later.
Ok I'm sorry I need to get off the soap box. I'm tell you, ya'll don't EVER want me to become the Emperor…. hmm President of the United States. Folks forget in their quest to shove their personal believe system down the collective throats of America that the Constitution gives me the RIGHT not to believe in the same thing you believe. Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster for life biotches!
Basically, I have no patients preaching sanctity of life when:
1) they support the death penalty
2) they want to bomb abortion clinics and murder doctors
3) the life they want to sanctify, they dont want their "hard earned tax dollars" to support in any way via food stamps, welfare, TANF, free school lunches, head start, public schools etc
4) if the child lingers in the foster system and grows up to be a criminal, they will be the first ones in line talking about death penalty
5) they probably want to bomb iran or china sometime in the next 10 or so years
6) they want "small government" but yet support a govt that can tell people who to marry and when to have children.
I have no patience.
George Carlin said it, its not pro life, its anti women.
I watched that George Carlin video yesterday. He summed it up perfectly!
Thank you! Every debate that I have had with a Pro Lifer and asked that question of what happens to the unwanted children has been met with crickets. Whether or not they like the facts and examples…not ALL children are wanted. If they were, we wouldn't have foster care, children's homes, none of that. All children would be adopted by like Brad and Angelina or something. How you can be Pro Life and against Public Assistance has never made sense to me…but then again most of their arguments don't make sense anyway.
Oh, honey, you know they only care about the unborn, not when they become an actual, real person requiring care and money. They have no problem cutting funding for things that support the lives and well-being of others if they have to pay for it.
They get amnesia regarding the other teachings within the good book.
Sigh, its truly sad and frightening that I know so many women personally. who were molested and/or raped[youtube 2qtlvr6LLV8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2qtlvr6LLV8 youtube]
From one survivor to another… I applaud you, thank you and pray peace upon you.
*hugs* you
I'm absolutely infuriated (and enraged and ridiculously furious and angry) for all of those who have to endure such disgusting crimes. You are brave for sharing your story and being a survivor.
Thank you love.
You are one of too many women I know rape has happened to.
It's sad that I have to consider myself lucky to not have been violated in my life SO FAR.
I'm with the boss, I just wanna fight this world today.
"It's sad that I have to consider myself lucky to not have been violated in my life SO FAR. "
Same here – never raped (although harassed & molested). There but for the grace.
My anger right now for this woman and the countless others, it can't even be quantified.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Your story has woken me up to the reality that rape can happen at any age and so I should not shrug my shoulders and move on after reading this, acting like this will never happen to me. I am 28 and I've never been raped but it doesn't mean that I am not at risk of suffering the pain you have suffered in the future to come.
My heart is sincerely with you. I am so sorry that you had to be a victim but so appreciative of you finding the courage to share your story to make such a great impact that could save future victims (I pray that the numbers dewindle and vanquish) from a greater level of distress which is having no choice at all to aborting the seed of a rapist.
It is unfair and heartless for someone to be forced to carry a child that was not created with love. And we, as voters, have a voice that can be heard when we act accordingly and vote against it.
They don’t. “We are not a socialist society!”
In all seriousness, they want to protect life, but they don’t want to be responsible for caring and providing for that life. Look at the programs they cut in the name of balancing budgets and cutting “unnecessary” spending.
People pick and choose what parts of the Bible or religion they want to uphold as it serves them, not the true spirit.
"People pick and choose what parts of the Bible or religion they want to uphold as it serves them, not the true spirit."
THIS!!!! All day every day.
I have had more than one friend, who had to live through being raped.
During my college years it was ridiculous how many girls got attack.
And sadly, no one would report it. Just because they knew, their character would be put on trial.
I have held the hand of more than one girl as she had the procedure done.
Here is the one one statement that really p*sses me off when the talk turns to abortions, and how the GOP is so flippant about it.
"They are only using abortion as a form of birth control and the state is paying for it!!!"…. And that is how the GOP looks at it.
The last thing a girl would ever want to do… is have a abortion. No one uses it as "form of birth control".
All the while some pinhead male is on FOX news talking as if… women drop by the clinic… get it done… then head over to the Mall for a little shoe shopping. As if its no big deal.
It is a big deal. No one wants to have to have it done.
The flippant way these clueless rich white GOP men talk about…. just p*sses me off.
With the way things are going right now… the same assholes will outlaw oral birth control. You watch and see…. they are going to start in with birth control pills next.
I know in Texas… the cost for birth control pills are outrageous. And the State of Texas has tried to stop college girls from getting them… by pricing them so high… that you have to decide if you want to eat this month or have your pills.
And I see this as only a start of the GOP stripping women of their basic personal rights.
If the GOP could figure out how to take our right to vote. They would do it. This whole issue of taking away affordable women's health care and the right to chose…. is just the tip of it.
So this angry girl… is voting early this Fall.
I am tired of being told how to live my life… by men who don't give a sh*t about women. And are trying to steal all my personal rights away.
"With the way things are going right now… the same assholes will outlaw oral birth control. You watch and see…. they are going to start in with birth control pills next."
Same damn thing I thought when the anti-choice talk began anew a couple years ago. This is just the beginning.
So 31 states allow a rapist to have visitation rights with their child, the same rapists that are banned from being within a close distance of schools & daycares? The same government that promises freedom and equality turn around and try to take away our freedom to choose.
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Just wanted to say thank you
You are my inspiration for your courage, for your willingness to share such a painful part of your life, you are in my thoughts and I hope your courage continues. You and all others that share similar stories. Thank you
Hugs healing and peace be unto you
Thank you for bravely sharing your story with us. *big hugs*
Shockingly I never thought of myself as a survivor because it didn't happen violently but rather under the "slipped mickey" act but it hurt just the same. I despise the way folks look at rape and why abortion happens. Where were these folks when I was dragged to an abortion clinic against my will? I didn't know what the hell happened until I was home. I'm sure these same folks that got something to say weren't there fighting for laws to prevent this type of stuff. There are laws in place now protecting minors but I'm sure pro life folks was fighting against it. Abortion is traumatic and not something women do just for the hell of it. I should be the only one that make the decision on what I do. Reading the stories of others always help me and I'm grateful you all shared. This while debate irritates my spirit and that is exactly why I don't miss an election. I vote for every dayum thang relevant or not.
http://www.rainn.org/statistics
If there were other nation's stats presented in such an eye-catching fashion, I would've linked them. Anyway, these are devastating enough to be getting on with……
Thank you for sharing your story. *hugs*
I don't understand how anyone can think it's okay to force someone who already had their will violated to have their will continue to be violated for the rest of their lives.
I just wanted to come back and say.. My sharing was not an attempt to take from the authors light.. Only to add to it.
Although Im happy that my son is here with people who love him; I was too young and not emotionally mature enough to make sound decisions like the author was.
As Hex said.. It's about choice..
Thanks again sister survivor..
your sharing was not taken in that way honey
if anything it was taken as this letter aided in you being able to share your story…
your courage to share is to be applauded…
*hugs*
Thank you for this. It was very brave and generous of you to share such a personal story. I have never understood who others can feel it's alright to tell another how to live their life. I don't care if it's your family, partner, clergy or the government. We each have free choice and the choice should be a hell of a lot more free when something atrocious as rape occurs. The last few years have shown me the pure ignorance that still exists in this country. The arrogance we as Americans feel because we have "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" is such a falsehood. We have those things only if we tow the line. I wish we could all come to a consensus that if it's not for you then you don't do it and leave my choices in my hands.
You're a strong woman Anonymous. Keep on keeping on.