As the father of a daughter, you only have one job. ONE JOB!
But who knew that for some fathers in Canada, it’s the mothers who are driving them straight to the pole (on weekends from 1-2pm).
A dance and fitness studio in Duncan, B.C. is planning to train girls in aerobic pole-dancing basics before they hit puberty. The Twisted Grip Dance and Fitness Studio is offering weekend pole aerobics classes this fall aimed at children called “Little Spinners.”
The studio is owned by instructor Kristy Craig, a certified fitness and aerobics instructor and member of the Pole Fitness Association.
Craig said she is simply catering to her adult clients’ demands.
“My existing students were asking about it for their children.They were saying, ‘My daughter plays on my pole at home all the time, I’d love her to actually learn how to do things property and not hurt herself.” Students enrolled include children as young as five and a boy.
Craig, who first took a pole dance class four years ago and never worked on the pole as an adult entertainer, said she will keep the focus strictly on athletics. “I treat it just like gymnastic classes … I don’t teach any of the adult moves,” she said.
Twisted Grip is not the first dance studio in B.C. to offer pole dancing for gradeschoolers.
In 2010, Vancouver’s Tantra Fitness made news for similarly allowing underage girls (in group classes as young as nine and private classes as young as five years old) to join with parental permission.
People are gonna say this is about morals and ethics. That the world is too sexualized and that people have lost their sense of decency. But I think this is about something else.
This is about isolation.
Remember back in the day when all our parents smoked? Smoked at the dinner table, at restaurants, while playing with us in the yard? Why did they do that — because that’s what their parents did. At a certain point in culture, smoking was just part of adulthood. No one realized or cared just how bad it was for you, so everyone did it. And even if your mom or dad decided to quit — your auntie or grandma easily made up for it. No one thought it was dangerous or even rude to light up around their kids, so in their minds they never had to justify it.
Anyone who thinks pole dance aerobics doesn’t has a sexual undertone is lying to themselves. But I suspect that most of the women who take these classes are aware of this fact and were able to justify the decision because it isn’t done at some strip club with dudes watching.
It’s a chance to learn a skill without having to live a lifestyle. To have a little naughty fun in a legitimate setting. It’s making a conscious choice to know and empower your sexuality.
But when you get people thinking that their daughters would also love this, that’s something entirely different. That’s not being able to see the bad side of something or even attempting to justify it. Even worse, it’s making a conscious choice to empower your child’s sexuality, which is just all kinds of wrong ass wrong.
Because if you have that pole at home — what’s that for? Is that only for exercise? Of course it isn’t. And even if you think it is, your husband or boyfriend would be MORE THAN HAPPY to suggest alternate uses for it. And if you’re two consenting adults with a Motley Crue mixtape and some time to kill, then go nuts and have fun — more power to you.
But you know the moment that funtime comes with a need for a conscience? When you wake up the next morning and see your daughter playing on that pole.
The person who sees that and says, “You know what? Maybe I don’t leave this pole installed when I’m not using it because I just saw a horrible version of my daughter’s possible future” is waaaay different from the one who says ”Oh how cuuuuuute!”
If someone feels this way enough to spend $70 a class to make sure their daughter is fully prepared to twerk it on the jungle gym at school — what that says to me is that there’s no one else around with the stones enough to tell them how it looks, or that the person is so isolated in their mindset that they don’t have the damn sense to listen.
Is that really where we’re at these days?
What do you think?