In news you wish you hadn’t read: Woman finds out her late husband was really her father

The next time you think you’re having a bad day, imagine how Valerie Spruill felt when she discovered that her husband and her father are the same person.

We will pause here briefly to enable you to process the previous sentence. Took me a while, too.

Talk about a psychological blockbuster.

Not that her life had been a breeze four decades earlier when she found out at the age of 9 that the man she thought was her father was actually her grandfather, and that a person who had been identified as a “family friend” was actually her mother.

Spruill didn’t learn until later that her mom also was one of three “night ladies,” as she terms it, who testified in the infamous 1980 corruption trial of Summit County Probate Judge James Barbuto.

Why would anyone volunteer this kind of information?

Because Valerie Spruill wants to be an example. The 60-year-old Doylestown woman wants to show other folks born into miserable situations that they can still lead good, productive, fulfilling lives.

Spruill has. Now retired, she worked for 34 years in the accounting department at Goodyear. She has three kids and eight grandkids.

Although Spruill has fought through serious health problems — she believes they were brought on by the stress of discovering the longtime family secret in 2004, when her husband/father died — she is relentlessly upbeat and optimistic.

For years, she overheard odd whispers she couldn’t figure out. She finally learned the truth from an uncle not long after her husband/father’s death.

When asked to estimate how many people know about this, she laughs and says, “Half of Akron.”

Spruill says she confirmed the relationship with a DNA test. And if anyone doubts it, she says, she still has plenty of his DNA: About five years ago, she found a hairbrush of his that somehow had become lodged under their dresser.

Now, I think it’s safe to say there aren’t a lot of support groups for people who marry their fathers. Fortunately, Spruill has been working with a therapist since she found out. She praises the therapist for helping her realize she did nothing wrong.

“I’ve been getting great help,” she says, “because, God knows, if I hadn’t of went and aired out how I feel, I wouldn’t have made it, because I would have continued to stress out about this problem.”

Still, the pain understandably persists. As she tells her tale to a writer whom she doesn’t know but says she trusts, an occasional drop of moisture slides down her dark brown skin toward a mouth that can’t seem to avoid curling upward in the corners even as she dredges up the most traumatic of memories.

The man in question, Percy Spruill, died in April 1998 at the age of 60. Born in Mississippi, he worked in Akron as a truck driver and, later, as a parking-lot attendant at Morley Health Center.

He and Valerie’s mother hooked up when he was only 15.

We’re not sure how many offspring Percy Spruill helped produce, but at one point,apparently, he figured that one of them would be a suitable spouse.

Although Valerie says she is not 100 percent certain he knew, because he never talked about it, she strongly believes he was aware of the taboo he had committed but was simply afraid to tell her.

She fights the natural inclination to hate him, because people who hate don’t get into heaven, she says. And if you don’t make it into heaven when the time comes, she notes, you can’t hit the rewind button and try again.

“I want this to be more of an inspirational story,” she says. “If I’ve come through this, anyone can come through anything through the help of the Lord.”

Spruill also is motivated to tell her tale in the hope she can locate additional siblings she didn’t know existed.

“My biggest goal is to find them and let ’em know that [their mother] loved them, no matter what. And [to tell them], ‘Thank God she gave you away like she did me, so you could have a beautiful life.’

“It’s not a shame to be given away. Most of the time it’s a blessing.

“And you have to see that blessing that God gave you and accept that hand. Because everybody’s dealt a hand, and it’s not always good and it’s not always bad. But if you live that hand that God gave you, it’s gonna be all right. It’s gonna be all right. Yes, it is.”

When she learned that Christine, the nice-looking woman who visited the house, was her mom, Spruill hated her. Hated the deception. Hated that her mom had tossed her in a taxi at 3 months old and shipped her permanently to Grandma’s house. Hated that she knew nothing about her siblings.

But well before her mother died in 1984, the daughter made amends, thanks in part to the religious beliefs imbued by her grandparents, whom she credits with doing a wonderful job of raising her.

“God changed my life,” Spruill says. “It was God, through me, that let [Mom] see God for herself. …“I used to pray and pray and pray that one day God would touch her heart and change her, and He did.

“One Sunday, she came to church and joined.”

Spruill also believes faith helped get her through two strokes and a diabetic coma that kept her in intensive care for 11 days.

“I know there’s a reason why I’m still living,” she says. “And it’s to tell this story.

“It needs to be told, because children need to know where they come from. And I know it hurts, because I have been devastated by this.”

One of the six brothers she is aware of advised her not to go public, saying, “Val, that might bring up a whole lot of skeletons in the closet.”

She replied, “Well, I’m not a skeleton, and I’m hurt.”

The hurt can be trumped by the truth, she believes.

“It’s a miracle how God reveals and heals at the same time, and he gives you that blessing to keep on going. …

“If this old lady done come through all this, and God’s still got her here and still with a good heart — because you find so many mean, vicious people in the world, and you don’t have to be — you can love no matter what you’ve come through or where you’ve been in this world.”

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  • Leo_YardieChick

    Glad she can speak so matter-of-factly on it, but….um…that is thirty-two flavours of phuqed UP!

  • http://rawki3@blogspot.com Twink

    AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT!!!

    (That's the only thing I could think of posting that would have made some semblance of sense at this point in time because…what in the ENTIRE fugg)

  • ChiDiva

    Soo,1/2 of Akron knew you were shtupin' your unkadaddy,but she had no clue?<img src="http://i47.tinypic.com/33ni3yw.jpg&quot; border="0" alt="Image and video hosting by TinyPic">I cain't see it

    • chichi572

      unkadaddy <—— really though?! LMAO!

  • DiaShoni

    I…I don't…understand. How in the world did no one think to tell her?

    • msjess7

      That's what I was thinking! Somebody should've pulled that woman aside or objected to her marriage. The facts that she had kids just has me smh….

    • http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog Jade Star

      Considering the ratchet level of incest going on and people not talking, I'm inclined to think all of their family trees are sticks…

      They all deserve first class seats…

      <img src="http://i205.photobucket.com/albums/bb163/pinkdafairy/Thread%20Bombs/shortbussairlines.jpg"&gt;

      • mdbrat

        I H8 EVERY FIBER OF YOUR BEING FOR THAT GAT DAMNED GIF!
        I snorted diet coke out of my nostrils from laughin you &*%)^&@#$&%#%)@&%*#&$&%@_&#$ !

        O_o

      • Damelo Suave

        Ma'am…. ———->

  • retired_heathen

    Bef….

    I know you in a foul mood today….but dammery!

  • http://www.ohellnawl.com Slausito Ramirez.

    wayminnit…. did bef really say: doafjepurhijhd;oftuieyrp9uytjnvb like it was supposed to mean shyt!!!!!

    Now i know how yall feel when i don't spell check

  • http://dontshootmessenger.blogspot.com Pete Schweddy _T

    Weeeeellllllll alrighty then. I am so glad that woman has the heart and spiritual anchoring she has. All that talk about her father being her husband is definitely traumatic. But how about finding out that your children were your siblings. She has a wonderful attitude toward a horrible situation.

  • http://thechocl8tdiaries.wordpress.com/ chocl8t

    *blinks……….blinks………..head tilted…stare…….*

    Uhmm….*sigh*

  • WanderBoi

    Everyone in Akron would be fought all up in their face. I'm not religious, so I would be knockin' nuccas out!

  • http://dontshootmessenger.blogspot.com Pete Schweddy _T

    This may answer some of LeBron's Daddy issues too… ya neva know.

  • ChiDiva
    • http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog/ Beth Lanai

      you going straight to hell for this

  • caratime2

    How in all the HAYLES do you stand by and watch your relative/neighbor/friend become involved with – then marry and have children by – someone you suspect is her biological father? What part of the Bible, Constitution, latest CD by Lil Wayne do you think condones this type of fuggary?

    All those people need to be struck by lightning with their laissez-faire arses!

    • CaraQ301

      "What part of the Bible, Constitution, latest CD by Lil Wayne do you think condones this type of fuggary? "

      GET THEE HELLA OUT OF HERE!!!! *spirit is beyond the afterlife*

      • caratime2

        **shimmies all around the OHN clubhouse**

    • http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog/ Beth Lanai

      OMG I have never put you out of the blog

      but for this here:

      What part of the Bible, Constitution, latest CD by Lil Wayne do you think condones this type of fuggary?

      you have gots to go!!!

      • caratime2

        To quote Slaus: LET ME BE GREAT!!

        **move over McFluffy**

        • http://www.ohellnawl.com Slausito Ramirez.

          :: cuddles all up on ms trina in the bad kid's corner ::

    • DaGroovy1

      *fills super soaker with holy water and aims it at Cara*

    • ToodySaysHey

      You had me with "laissez faire muthafvckers"

      emphasis mine.

  • queensgirl1960

    http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-AFGJntt22hnm4/th

    Dear God, after all these years…
    …the man I knew as my pa is dead.
    But then, Nettie write that my real daddy lynched.
    My mama marry this dead man two years after my real daddy dead.
    My children, not my sister and brother.
    Pa, not Pa.
    You his wife?
    Yes, ma'am.
    How'd he die?
    On top of me.

    • CaraQ301

      BYTCH!!! *slams the door*

      • http://www.ohellnawl.com Slausito Ramirez.

        :: IN TEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARS :::

    • BrownRiceBoiy

      ~pours cement on my casket!…i refuse to come back after this~

    • retired_heathen

      *GUFFAW*

    • melette

      I am WEAK!!!! *real tears*

  • Busryder

    ………………………….. Well……. .. Uhm……

    Nevermind.

  • blu4577

    How…. how doesnt this even happen? Did her family not go to the wedding? F that! You cant love me too much if you dont tell me that I am screwing/marrying my own damn daddy! How long were they married? Please dont let them have had children together! I know it says she has kids but I hope they arent HIS kids!

  • CaraQ301

    That whole town would be blown up… I couldn't even read this on FB….. HELLL NAWL!!!

    • Lately25

      It's really making me wonder how many other daughter/wives, husband/father, brother/husband, and any other f*ckery they have going on in that place, since everyone was whispering about it, but nobody just shouted out 'Eeeeeew, that's your daddy!!!'

  • COA

    N*****s would die…..b******s would die. I mean seriously? AWWWWWWWWWWL yall knew and let me shack up, wed and push my siblings out my snatch?? *lights fuse*

    I applaud her Wolverine like healing abilities. I'd be a murderous foowell.

    • http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog/ Beth Lanai

      wolverine like healing abilities?

      —————–>

    • http://lesthecrochethooker.blogspot.com/ Les

      *drops on the floor*

    • DaGroovy1

      Wolverine healing abilities?! *lays out*

  • phenomblak

    If God is helping her get through this, I hope he's getting paid overtime. I feel like she was just the mean girls joke of the whole damn town that helped "raise" her.

    Am I the only one trying to figure out if any of her kids are also he siblings?

    Aphran needs to be renamed "Ain't Shit County"

  • Damelo Suave

    I applaud the calmness with which she is taking this news, cuz this might be the entire town of Akron…

    <img src="http://www.reocities.com/TheTropics/7726/siberia2.gif"&gt;

  • COA

    So…..no one wants to say how much she looks like the blogger Sandra Rose? No one? OK.

  • http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog Jade Star

    <img src="http://i205.photobucket.com/albums/bb163/pinkdafairy/Thread%20Bombs/wat.gif"&gt;

    Guess what? Half of Akron would get falcon punched, kicked, choked and body slammed over this!

    This woman's ENTIRE DAMN FAMILY FAILED HER AND DID IT EPICALLY!

    sdlkfja

    I

    cant

    ljasdlkajdfs

    *head implosion*

    <img src="http://i205.photobucket.com/albums/bb163/pinkdafairy/Thread%20Bombs/falldown.gif"&gt;

  • http://www.ohellnawl.com Slausito Ramirez.

    You woulda saw the trail of destruction I caused all the way from space, bytch.

  • FubsyNumbles

    [youtube HY-03vYYAjA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HY-03vYYAjA youtube]

  • mysstea

    That poor woman!

    I just don't even know nor do I understand how…wow…

  • Lately25

    EVERY TIME I read the words 'husband/father', it messed me up bad… Real REAL bad….

    <img class="media" id="fullSizedImage" src="http://i350.photobucket.com/albums/q435/eryn2607/Supernatural%20Gifs/tumblr_lagnchpQIY1qa15tx.gif&quot; alt="Dean's gonna be sick" galleryimg="no" style="width: 160px; height: 90px;">

  • Fadematic

    With all these comments and the knowledge of this all I can say is…

    <img src="http://i48.tinypic.com/6899id.jpg&quot; border="0" alt="Image and video hosting by TinyPic">

  • ToodySaysHey

    See now see…this THIS is why I cant date anybody black or half black from in the tri state area.

    Ever.

    Papa was a rolling stone, and aint no telling where he sprayed his pebbles, if you know what Im saying. And I am NOT trying to discover after 30 years, 3 kids, a mortgage and a retirement pension that I been laid up with a half brother n shyt.

    Nope, not gon' happen playa.

    Shoot, a friend told me that she was listening to the Micheal Baisden show recently and they had a story which is pretty similar to this except that fortunately, the father and daughter had only been dating….for 3 years. When she brought him home to meet fam, thats when her moms and aunt freaked out and told her that old boy was actually her father, the man whom her mother had never told her about or gave her even the barest facts of his existence. I mean, didnt even give a bisch the man's damn name!

    Nope…aint gon happen to me…Ill go celibate in this bish before you catch me slippin'

    • COA

      I read that. And then they STILL went back to dating. Nasty bastids.

      • http://rawki3@blogspot.com Twink

        ::fights the air like Cuba Gooding Jr::

      • ToodySaysHey

        WHAT?!?!?!?!??!?

        They know they are father and daughter and are still smangin??? Like willingly???

        <img src=http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_leqqk6B6na1qeyx9w.gif>

      • ToodySaysHey

        <img src=http://i54.tinypic.com/2rep080.gif>

        • DeeBeeR

          ————————>>

          Just. Go.

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