Everybody loves the supermodels.
What’s the worst thing about men, ladies — The constantly wandering eyes? The not realizing the value of what’s sitting right in front of you just because the waitress has her boobs hanging halfway out and talks with a squeak? The constant divide between how much he says you are the perfect woman for him and all the blonde amazon-built bimbos in his porn collection or the dog-eared pages with the video hoochies in the King magazines he leaves everywhere?
Or is it ALL UH DAT.
There’s a lot of talk about the dangers that the unrealistic standards the media and society hold about what constitutes feminine beauty have on little girls. That when you parade around a certain body shape, or a certain kind of hairstyle, skin tone, or intelligence level as the ideal, that it can lead to self esteem problems for everyone else that doesn’t look like that.
But there’s another side to this — an interesting twist on the whole thing that doesn’t always get discussed, because it’s hard to make it sound legitimately sympathetic …what about the effect that these standards end up having on men?
Men see the same media, if not more that tells them what hot and sexy is supposed to look like. And while no one is going to try to argue that it wasn’t chauvinistic thinking that started all this mess in the first place — one of the interesting side effects for the rest of us is this idea that there are lots of women beautiful women out there, but only so many that seem to fit this slim image of what we’re all supposedly looking for.
Somebody’s dating all these hotties (Hugh Hefner can’t marry all of them at once) — is it really all it’s cracked up to be?
Ok since the boys have been posting all this mad eye candy in the RT a daily bases, it caused me to ponder a question for the group.
For those of us that have had the pleasure of having a woman super high caliber, did you find yourself going way above and beyond to keep her happy? Did you do this because of the notion that you knew dudes was bombarding on a daily with offers of dicking her down?
At what point if any did you realize that it required too much effort to maintain? My theory has been this over the years, having a super-hot chick like this on your arm is more of a pain in the ass then it’s worth. So while most men will drool and be willing to cut off their left nut to bang a chick like this, very few will be willing to KEEP a chick like this. And thus will settle for a less highly polished chick.
I’m not saying settle for an fugly chick, but just not one that is for highly identifiable walking around with a smangable target on her back.
What say you?
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We put this question to the OHN men’s roundtable and opened the floor to discussion. Guys from all across the country offered opinions — and even in some cases shared similar experiences of their own. Here are some of the highlights:
When I was a teenager I banged nothing but dimes. But you’re right, they were too much trouble. When I met my wife it was a blind date. My first reaction when I met her was – she’s cute but.. But after getting to know her and realizing that she was a true ride or die chick I had no choice but to let go of that ego and desire to impress other men (after all, why else do we really care what she looks like?). That was 15 years ago, and honestly, not one of the broads I used to fugg with are still “fine” because that’s what time does.
My wife is very plain. She’s not into fashion or makeup. She refuses to carry a purse. She’s a Vet, so she has no problem dealing with shit (quite literally). But she’s the most honest and genuine person I know, and I love her for it. I’m soooo glad I learned young, because even if my wife isn’t turning heads like some chick from a magazine might, she’s a hell of a wife and a hell of a mother to my children.
I’ve always said i’d take an average girl with a personality over a dime with nothing else any day. The ones i personally came across were pretty shallow and only good for sex and arm candy — but they weren’t the types to hold me down if it was needed. Plus they like to be seen just as much as we want them seen. IN the end though it becomes too much work. I have come across a rare few (including one now) who are ride or die and stand for something — and those are the ones you want to have by your side more than anything.
The hottest woman I have ever dated was the biggest pain in the ass I ever knew (and the worst in bed I ever had). She was just…dumb, to life to everything. As far as I’m concerned my wife is hot as shit and to top it off, intellectually she is the smartest woman I have ever known. She is funny, goofy, low maintenance, and isn’t into that glamour ish much. Hell, I help her with her make-up and do her manicures n shyt. Could I pull a woman prettier? maybe, yeah. Would I ever pull a woman hotter? Never. Sexier? Never. Smarter? Never.
I’ve had a couple extremely fine women in my time. In my opinion, if her head is right — I don’t have to be concerned about who’s offering her the dick. But if her head ain’t right, she’s not worth being concerned about anyway. I’ve been out with my chick, walked away for all of 30 seconds, and returned to see a guy trying to run full game and I don’t trip. I’m the type to sit back and watch with a grin until it’s time for me to step in. I’m really of the opinion that if another man can take her, she wasn’t mine in the first place.
It’s been my experience that a really fine, mature woman with her head on straight knows how to carry herself. If she’s got a good man, she’s not trying to fuck that up for just whoever. As far as doing more to keep her happy…that implies that I would be doing less for a chick who might not look quite as good. I treat ‘em all the same.
Either she’s worth keeping, or she ain’t. If she is, I’m doing everything in my power to keep her happy. There’s no such thing as too much effort for a fantastic woman.
I’ve found that since I’ve had my daughter, I’m kinda immune to some of the things that would have other men bending over backwards. It’s like, “I’ve got a little girl. I know this game. Batting the eyelashes and using the cute voice ain’t gettin’ you anywhere with me.”
I think dating beautiful women brings us all to the same conclusion: they’re no better or worse than any other women. Some are awesome. A lot are fucked up and not worth the effort. No level of beauty will change that. That being said, I’m greedy. I want it all. If I were to settle down again, I’d find it hard to do with an okay looking woman who was awesome in every other respect. That’s just me though.
Last chick I was with was fine as hell but FUCKED in the head. I had a young tender before that who wasn’t as fine, but turned me on…too bad she was just dumb.
Enter my current love though — Sexy as hell AND smart as fuck? I knew I had to keep her. I spilled my innermost secrets upfront cause I could NOT risk loosing this one.
Dimes suffer from Princess Syndrome. FUCK all of the fucks out of that LOL. It ain’t worth it.. yeah they cute, but they are lame in bed, don’t sweat you, don’t make you feel wanted n shit. So you make a decision… I’d rather go for a cute sexy chick with everything else I need vs one that just looks beautiful.
I used to chase and chase all kinds of stupid foxes, but then my wife came in and smashed my prototype thoughts of what I thought I wanted in a woman… threw in my player cards, tossed out the roster and deleted text messages (not the pics) and went franchise. So, if you can find a princess and make it work… more power, but how she is when you meet her is how she is gonna be throughout… can’t change that.
One thing I noticed over the years of dating is that all the true dime chicks had absolutely nothing to bring to the table but looks and occasionally skills in the bedroom. My theory is that women like that never develop any ancillary skills because they don’t have to. Men give them everything in the first place to get close to them all they have to do is show up.
I think this pretty much sums up my experiences and feelings on this topic:
Here’s what I’m thinking though — how would women react if they were told the truth about this dime vs. basic chick theory. I would suspect that the mature and logical ones would still be pissly about us even thinking that they were not as hot as the dimes, even though they got the prize that the dime could never get. The prize being a committed mate.
To me, the only dime piece status chicks that are worth it are the ones with ugly ducking syndrome or that were tomboys growing up. Ain’t nothing worse that a chick that thinks all she has to do is show up and look pretty — well besides the chick that ain’t all that but thinks she is lol. I ain’t winning no modeling contests either so I ain’t one to sit up and get rid of a decent chick because I think i could get a finer one…heck, she could do the same to me.
Next time yaw out at the grocery store look in a Dime chicks basket… bunch of Hungry Mans and top ramens and shyt, Bytch who you feeding with that? But these hoe ass niggas out here today accept that shyt merely cause she got some good pussy. Shyt my wife cooked for me ONCE and it was over. I’ve had my fair share of broads and she was the only one to throw down in the kitchen. Ask most hoes if they cook period let alone separate dishes and see what you get…
But that’s just our opinion. What do you think?
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