Many of you are out there right now beginning new year resolutions and other such practices to improve your life in some way shape or form. You’re sitting there thinking that 2014 is YOUR year. 2014 is YOUR time to be amazing.
Nevermind all the other times you didn’t do jack shyt, somehow out of the blue, THIS time is going to be different. THIS time is yours.
Your sitting there with all these lovely little dreaaaaams and desires of doing better, all the while many of your friends and family are looking at you like…
behind your back, plenty of folks are thinking…
and after listening to all of these people, you’re now sitting there wondering if you were just completely full of shit. You’re wondering why you wasted your time or you might be wondering if you really have it in you do some things differently this time…
of course your friends and family are only looking out for your well being right? After all they love you so they are just being real with you right?
: snickering : Yeah they are just being honest. They aren’t being honest about what YOU can do though, they are instead being honest about what THEY are capable of. Which is apparently just being a little negative cockmonkey fucker.
Let me tell you something about these people….
Negative people thrive in negativity. Many of them right now have stopped reading this because they know they are guilty of being negative cunts and assorted varieties of dicks. I’m talking dick, cocks, weiners, shlongs, etc. Just 31 flavours of dirty dick-assness.
Unfortunately many of these people believe they can’t ever do better so you know what? They won’t. Because they already believe they can’t and if you ask them why they can’t, they have every ‘reason’ in the world why doing and being better in any aspect of their life is an impossibility. Truth is, mayhaps some of them are right. Why? Because life isn’t fair and life can be a real shit for some people. Sad as can be… it just is. SOME of these people have suffered so many defeats throughout life that to them it feels impossible. It feels completely silly to them that shyt can be better ever because shyt has always been so bad before. I feel for those people, I really do. Then there are those people who truly suffer from a mental illness or issue that impedes them horribly.
I feel for them, I truly do.
But those aren’t the norm. More than likely there are people out there who are simply just…. little negatives people.
DO NOT LET THESE PEOPLE POISON YOUR EFFORTS.
These people have already defeated themselves. Not the world… but defeated by themselves. The ones telling you that YOU can’t better yourself in anyway? These are the first persons you should NOT include in your plans. They are toxic. Instead, reach out and find others trying to do good things. The same things you are doing even. I don’t care if it’s losing weight, learning something new, going back to school, etc etc. If there is something you want to improve in your life right now, please be realistic and please believe that you can do it IF you surround yourself with other positive people or believe that you are worth the effort.
I say this as a person who used to be one of the snarkiest always got something negative to say fat bytches in the history of bytches. I have allowed MY negativity before to bring down the efforts of others simply because….shyt I don’t even know. I was simply a petty ass negative person. DOn’t let these people deter you…please.
YOU have the power to either be your greatest asset or your worst enemy and you know what…. only one of those options makes sense.
Many of you who have been around OHN for the past 6 years know that I used to be a VERY different person. I thrived on not trying to hear opposing opinions, I enjoyed berating and embarrassing those who didn’t agree with my viewpoints, and if you didn’t agree with me, I got off on telling you that the only reason you didn’t agree with me was because you weren’t smart enough to get it. And once I got you all riled up and emotional, I was an expert at twisting things to make YOU look like a fool. THEN I would berate you for being emotional and not in control of yourself. I prided myself on being “vulcan like” at controlling myself whilst manipulating you.
I am no longer that person. And the reason I am not that guy to the extent that I was is because one day I simply decided I really and truly didn’t think I was living up to my potential. SHyt I STILL don’t. But what I did do is sit down and make a list of all the things I did NOT like about my life, and believe me…it was a goood long list, and from that I looked at what I realistically COULD begin to change about me. Although I didn’t even get through half that list, I made lasting changes that have helped me mature in ways I thought I never could. Those persons I didn’t think would help in my journey but instead would hinder it, I left them out of the equation. I left them out of my plans on how I wanted to make some changes in my life. I consulted with positive people and took a long hard look at myself and asked: “What is it about me that I don’t love enough to do better?” If I didn’t like these things, WHY wouldn’t I change them? What was stopping me??
In the end, I found out that it wasn’t other people, it was Me.
Since I didn’t have any real reason to remain where I was and didn’t WAN’T to remain there, WHAT was the point in being there?
So I made some moves.
And when I made those moves I had awesome people in my corner like Bef, Ambz, Dwayne T, Nulli, Zell and my bestest pal; my wife, helping me and encouraging me along the way.
I love them all so much FOR being the positivity I needed that I was having trouble building in myself.
I’ve matured.. lost 35 lbs…become a better listener and a better person along the way.
Now i’ve still got a long way to go and surely i’ll stumble along the path but… I have a great group of people and have enjoyed a much more positive outlook. It took me a year getting to where I am now, and I can’t wait to struggle and strive towards the next goals with my friends and family cheering along.
I am not sure I could have done it without them.
Positive encouragement. folks. Empowerment. It’s always great to believe in yourself, it truly is. But you can’t discount the power of positive reinforcement…..encouragement.
Get with others who are trying to make a difference in their own lives. Don’t argue and fight with those who are negative, as that battle will only bring you down as well.
You owe it to yourself.
So for those of you who DID make resolutions, best of luck to you….
even if you stumble, fall and fail a few times, the only real failure is giving the hell up.
Now get out of my office with your happy smiley ass….
go do some awesome shyt.
wit’cha stank ass.
Creator of OHN